I have been away from the office for the better part of two weeks; and while I was grateful for the vacation and the break, it was quite nice to see my colleagues once again.
Today a few of my peers and I gathered for lunch; and over the course of our meal we had what I consider a pretty amazing conversation. We ended up talking about a wide variety of topics, from resolutions and personal goals, to domestic and international travel, to the political environments of North and South Korea, to gender equity…and many more strands and threads of different thoughts in between.
I’m not really one for chit-chat. I’m more of a listener than I am a talker (and much more of an introvert than I am an extrovert), so if I’m going to engage in conversation with someone, I don’t want it to be on banal topics like the weather, or reality TV, or celebrity gossip… If I’m going to expend energy in dialogue, I want it to be meaningful. Worthwhile. Fortifying. Now, not everyone shares my point of view, and I can respect that. Everyone’s entitled to their preferences. All I’m saying is that my preference is to talk about topics that I feel do something more than just eat up time. I want to feel like I got something back from a discussion, instead of feel like I spent time that could have been better invested doing something else.
When I’m talking with people who are more acquaintances (as compared with people who are close friends), usually the conversation skims more on the surface of safer topics – like the weather, weekend plans, television shows, etc. And I get it; in our culture, often times “safe” or “easy” is preferred to “deep” or “challenging”.
But, what excites me is more of the deep/challenging than the safe/easy. And today, I got to experience some more bold, demanding conversation items with people who do a good job of challenging me (in a positive way). I had a very fulfilling lunch.